What fills you up?
Meaning what gives you your energy back?
What activities support you in the whole rather than deplete you?
Are you trying to create a spiritual experience? For those of us interested in mindfulness, yoga, and/or spirituality, we have to watch our own desire to speed up our self-realization journey. Listening to other's stories and ah's, we are enticed to try to create something special to talk about and show we are spiritually evolving too. Whether we are trying to prove it to ourselves or others, the reality is that life is the spiritual experience. There is no need to create it, seek it, or even desire it. It is subtle and right at the tip of our own nose. I always think as humans, we try too hard. We over complicate the simple. We become intellects in a mind-body-soul experience of living life.
It started when an Instagram post popped up on my feed, and I instantly signed up. Without a doubt, I was the first to join the "only six spots" class on flower arranging. My intention for signing up has a little (ok...a lot) to do with the fact that I am getting married in May (Thank you, I am excited too.) Little did I know the flower arranging class by the lovely Flowershop (yes, the name of the shop) owner, Lily, was going to offer me more wisdom to my life than simply learning how to arrange a bouquet.
At this moment, I am sitting on my porch swing, swinging, and hearing my fingers clack away on my computer. At the same time, I am aware of the birds singing and chirping, my mom doing yard work (I love when she visits), and smelling the cool, crisp air hinting fall may actually have arrived. All of this is happening right here, right now, in front and around me. I am aware of my reality. I am living the present moment.
Our multi-tasking habit is an external reflection of what is going on with our minds. It makes sense. The demands of daily engagement mean turning our attention and focus quickly from one task to another imposed on us by our responsibilities (i.e.- work, home, social obligations) some conscious, some unconscious. Most of us hope to get more done in less time but usually moving from one thing to the next is counter productive.
Let’s start by simply noticing how you spend your time. When we spend time doing things that we value, we then value our time. Pay attention to how much time is spent doing things that you value by simply drawing a pie chart. Fill in visually how much time is spent doing various activities- feel free to group them by category (for instance- home, work, personal, etc.) or break them up into specifics (for instance, laundry, sleeping, eating, emails, exercise, etc.)
Personally, I find jealousy to be one of the worst feelings ever. I’ve experienced it a fair share in my lifetime and was always left feeling depleted and un-empowered. I think the very nature of jealousy sets us up for just that- wanting something that someone else has and feeling like you can’t have it. Ouch! How can one feel better if that is the very premise of jealousy? So in my ever-growing attempt to feel “good,” I’ve learned how to befriend jealousy, recognizing that it is there to provide me with valuable information. So let me show you what I mean.
This has become a favorite tool for me, especially during the holidays or when things generally get hectic. You know when your mind is full, exploding at the seams, you wake up thinking of your “to do” list and can’t seem to get settled or focused. Well, welcome to the brain dump. The simple, but effective tool for creating some mental space and order. It starts by grabbing a sheet of paper and pen. Sit down for 2 minutes.
An interesting topic considering I am happily married, but prior to this relationship, I was in my early 20’s and single trying to figure out how to approach dating in a town full of "peter-pans" and an era of social media and hook ups. Fast forward to now: I interact with friends and clients regularly who too are trying to figure out just how to date with intention.
Last week was ROUGH. And totally self-created.
It started Monday coming off of the holidays and trying to get back into the groove of a structured day. Already feeling some mild resistance, it increased ten fold when I realized I had overbooked myself. Literally- double booking appointments (the worst). I felt stressed, lethargic, frustrated and bummed that I was not more with it. I decided to “kick myself into gear” and just be more productive with my time. (Detour from relief: number one// pushing does not work)