Lessons from The Flower Shop

It started when an Instagram post popped up on my feed, and I instantly signed up. Without a doubt, I was the first to join the "only six spots" class on flower arranging. My intention for signing up had a little (ok...a lot) to do with the fact that I was getting married last May.  Little did I know the flower arranging class by the lovely Flowershop (yes, the name of the shop) owner, Lily, was going to offer me more wisdom to my life than simply learning how to arrange a bouquet. 

Don't overthink it. As our materials were laid out in front of us, our instructor said, "Don't overthink it." What a simple and huge reminder because the majority of the time the overthinking is what makes us do our worst work. Overthinking is something I believe we all could do without. Those that know me may not know that my nickname is "Lyntell Processing." The nickname emerged after a business trip with Hallie, who informed me I think a lot. "Damn!" I thought. "I don't want to be an overthinker." Returning from my trip where Hallie informed me of her observation, I shared it with Drew (my then fiancée, now husband). He agreed and said, "Yes, you are 'Lyntell Processing'." With that brilliant humor, I can embrace the part of myself that likes to consider, think, be curious, analyze, dissect, and so on. However, I can see that overthinking is not meant for all of life. Sometimes there is difficulty in simplicity and that is the culprit in overthinking. Step back and try doing life without overly considering its components. So what do you do instead of overthink? Great question...and leads into my next lesson...

Open up your senses. It is time to look, breathe, touch, taste, and listen to what's happening around you. Move with your senses and explore the world through all of your pores. With this broader (and deeper) experience of life, you will feel much more connected. Try it. Today live from all of your other senses and let your mind take a backseat. Enjoy the way life is supposed to be experienced- being in the moment rather than processing. 

Take ownership. When my instructor said, "take ownership", she meant to take control of my arrangement. These words together mean something more to me than take control. One of the hardest and richest practices is to practice ownership- how are you contributing to your life's happenings? Rather than attributing what's happening to others, acknowledge your own effect on your life. The journey to understand yourself requires honestly seeing that you are the real instigator of the struggles, hardships, and happenings. If you start to own your experiences, you will find the wisdom of why they are valuable to your life. Enjoy learning from your life experiences rather than deflecting onto and blaming others.

Try something new you've never done before. That day, I tried something new.  In doing so,  I received reminders about how to live a more whole life that is rich in meaning. I showed up to my flower arranging class (late- that is a whole other story), met an incredibly lovely group of ladies, and was reminded that stepping out to do something new allows me to broaden my life. I could have sat home, watched morning television, and sipped my coffee alone. Instead, I joined a fun activity which reminded me of wise ways to show-up to life, all while creating a beautiful piece of work. 

By Lyn Tally. Learn more about Lyn's journey into teaching embodied mindfulness-based concepts.